As a person who attended three elementary schools in two cities ( Lubbock and San Saba), three junior highs ( all in Lubbock) and 2 high schools ( Brownsville and Harlingen), I can attest to the fact that for those returning to the same school, the beginning is in deed exciting–old friends, a building and teachers mostly the same or at least known. If it isn’t familiar there were always friendly faces to lend a hand. However, for the new student the start of school can be often ..terrifying!
One of the things I remember is always being registered on the first day of school. My parents went to the same schools and had not a clue how intimidating new schools, new teachers and new studentscan be. There is the waiting to be noticed on the busy first day in the school office. Then came the questions you don’t know the answer to: Who are your parents? ( Mother and Daddy).. Wrong! ; Where did you go to school? (Lubbock ). Wrong! Correct answer is the name of the school. And on and on... white cards to take home and bring back tomorrow signed! ( Not dropped or left on the bus, but signed!)
Then there is the long walk with “ someone from the office” to first period or just to a room. As Iwalked into the room, I was very aware of the kids looking me over. A few whispers are heard and I always was sure the whispers were critical. Now comes the turning around and finding a desk with 32 or more pairs of eyes watching. It didn’t get any easier as I got older!I realized when I was older and moved to several towns following a husband who insisted, that all that meeting people and adjusting to new people as a kid made it easier as an adult.
These are the things that I learned; 1) The whispering isn’t always critical. 2) People who are desperate for friends approval first, very seldom do they become your best friends. 3) All places have cliques made of people who have been together a long time. 4) These people are not usually deliberately rude, they are just already involved and do not want to hear about your life at this time. 5) A smile and interest in them breaks the ice. Later they will listen to your stories. 6) There are likeable and unlikeable people everywhere! ( This is true all over the world. Everyone has a story which can be obtained with a few sincerely interested questions and a trulyattentive ear.)
Would you prefer to have lived in one place? Sometimes, usually when I’m in a group where I don’t know everyone, it’s just more comfortable to be with known people. On the other hand, my life ( and yours) is made up of the total of our experiences, I think in the end I wouldn’t have it any other way. My experiences have made me a more understanding individual and I hope a more interesting one
Would you change your life if you could? Let’s think about that on cooler days ahead...